Dealing with the loss of a loved one is never easy, whether it is unexpected or not. In 2016, the whole world experienced unexpected losses of beloved celebrities to health issues and unsung Americans to senseless violence. Those are the stories that make headlines, but the losses that hurt most are the personal ones.
When a loved one passes, especially unexpectedly- we are left feeling lost, broken, and confused. We even feel angry, thinking we’ve been cheated out of time. During a time of grief it’s not uncommon to think you’re being selfish in your emotions. That’s perfectly alright. Be selfish, feel all the feelings, be angry. Not being able to say goodbye is one of the worst feelings a person can go through.
It’s important to remember everyone grieves differently and no certain way is right or wrong. But getting through it is possible. Through the journey, you have to remember to take care of yourself. Your loved one would want that. It’s easy to lose yourself in the grieving process. You may find yourself eating and sleeping too little or too much. By repressing our grief, it only prolongs the process.
Seeking out support groups, going to a counselor, or talking to a trusted friend are great tools to help. Ultimately, you have to take your time and remember the good times you shared with your loved one. Doing an activity or volunteering in your loved ones name is also a beneficial coping skill. Knowing you love and loved the lost loved one and they loved you is the most healing realization.